Happy New Year!

I hope everyone enjoyed the holidays. I had a special boy visiting me and serving me, and had a wonderful time.

Around the house, he was generally dressed in only a collar, cock ring or CB device, and panties. There weren't any scene events going on, but we went out on vanilla-ish dates, with secret bits of kink thrown in. In addition to visiting my favorite art museum, indy movie theatre, etc, we went out somewhere different for dinner every night. I mixed it up from casual to romantically sensual and extravagant, selecting an assortment of good local restaurants with a variety of cuisines and experiences.

Each time we dressed to go out, I would select a CB device or cock ring for him to wear and/or other items as well as panties. On one of the first days, I had him wear one of my black lace bras under his shirt. Another evening, we went lingerie and toy shopping (for both of us) at a local adult store while he was locked in one of his CBs. And he wore his black leather collar out to the New Year's Eve!

As we progressed, I taught him to properly shave his legs, and had him wear stockings for me when we went out as well as around the house, and even to bed. I also painted his toenails and started to teach him paint mine. I especially loved the fact that every time he noticed the pretty pink polish on my fingernails it reminded him that his toes were secretly painted to match. ;-)

I sent him home still wearing the toenail polish, and with the collar and stockings, as well as what I hope were some wonderful memories. :-) And while I know that it was a very expensive trip for him, I do hope to see him again as we continue his training.

Foot Worship

Receiving foot worship is one of my all-time favorite kink activities. I love having my feet rubbed, and having my toes sucked for hours by a boy who really gets into it gets me going like nothing else.

However, I do think that real foot worship can only be done in person. It's like giving a massage: a cyber massage is nice, but it's still not a real massage.

And, while foot baths* and vibrating slippers can be wonderful, I've never found one that comes close to the pleasure of having a boy at my feet massaging and sucking. And, obviously, an online pedicure isn't something that I can show off by wearing sexy sandals.

That being said, I do understand that there are fetishist who enjoy looking at my feet, and reading about them for their own pleasure. (Please do not delude yourself into thinking that imaging my feet as you pleasure yourself is at all submissive, or is any sort of service to me, because it is not!) These are the fetishists for which I post pics for sale because this is a service that I am providing to them, and not the other way around.

And, yes, when they are respectful and somewhat submissive, I sometimes do really enjoy talking to a foot boy, and describing my feet for him via a service such as Niteflirt. However, I do want to hear your voice - your breath - your moans - so that I can really hear my power over you via the effect that my words and pics are having on you. Hearing that, as you call me Mistress, can, and does, make me hot. ;-)

*Mmm.. I could use a new heated, massaging foot bath. Mine broke some time ago, and I haven't replaced it. That is one way that a foot boy can pamper me from afar, and one like this would make a nice gift, perhaps even a holiday present:
http://www.amazon.com/Conair-FB51-Massaging-Footbath-Purple/dp/B000LQHTUM

Another obvious way is to treat me to a pedicure. I always feel pampered as I watch the girl rubbing my feet and doing my toe nails, knowing that a boy is having them done for my pleasure. ;-) I am also happy to take pics and love showing off my pretty toesies in return.

Picture: "Yin Yang Footrubs" taken my Mistress Magick at Saturday night's foot party.
Yes, that is my foot! ;-)

Foot Fetishist Training Video: Don't Be That Creepy Guy!

Q: When you think of the idea of "showing off your boy" do you prefer the idea of taking him out in public collared and leashed, with other secrets hidden beneath street clothes... or having him serve totally, wearing even less, before a chosen few?

A: Actually, it’s usually somewhere in between. I love the idea of the hidden secrets underneath, but to me that is a different type of stimulus…something that makes me quietly smile or gets me all wet, knowing how it privately reflects my control over him.

Hmmm… though tweeting about it is showing him off, as are the yummy glimpses of our intimate conversations that we sometimes share with others on Twitter. I love retweeting jezi’s panty reports, and also commenting on the yummy feelings that I get while wearing or using various gifts and tributes from my boys and trainees. While the actions might be in private, talking about how much my boy pleases me is definitely one area in which I enjoy showing him off.

One of the key factors is interacting with people whom I know or who might comment back. I also really enjoy “controlled exhibitionism” (which might be a better description of the seen portion of your first example), but even in that, I want to be able to see and feel the response of the watcher. A lot of the pleasure that I receive is actually in knowing my/our effect on others.

When looking for a personal submissive, I want someone who will make me proud of him… who I can enjoy showing off. He is intelligent; interesting; confident in his skills, but not cocky/arrogant, and acts like a gentleman, ‘though he has enough of a naughty steak to indulge, and sometimes inspire, my more adventurous ideas. ;-) He is eager to help others when it is appropriate, but he doesn’t put them ahead of my needs. He can keep up his end of a conversation with my friends, who range from college dropouts to PhDs.

Here are some examples of my favorite real life ways of showing a boy off, most of which I have enjoyed with more than one of my subs:

• Loaning him out as a demo model for an instructor (whom I trust) who is teaching something that he enjoys or is curious about.
• Having him show off/teach/demo/share his experiences with specific fetishes/kinks, such as having him show off his chastity device and how it goes on and off for friends at a party, and discussing with them his experiences in wearing it.
• Having him serve me at a party or event, or even model in a fetish fashion show, in clothes that I have picked out for him.
• Loaning him out to help with setup or taking down for an event.
• Leading a boy around an event, asking others to play with the bells on his nipples, or chastity, or having them each take a turn while I am giving him a spanking. Basically, asking/allowing them to take part in teasing or playing with him, and comment on it while I enjoy both their reactions and his.

Some more specific memories:

• Having him serve at a party that I am hosting – greeting guests, putting away coats, helping with the food table, getting drinks, etc. Wearing his chastity key on a necklace, clearly visible near my heart, “knowing” friends notice and congratulate me on the new boy. One of them, noticing that his collar does not have a lock, asks what the key is for, and I indicate that it fits something a bit lower. ;-) (Mmm…taking more private pleasure in the memories of him pleasuring me beforehand, and then cleaning and setting things up while I showered, dressed and answered last minute calls and emails.)
• Sending him ahead to SRO classes at a national BDSM event while I network in the hall. Coming in, saying “thank you, but no” to the guys who are offer me seats, and even the one who offered me a place on his lap, carefully moving past the folks sitting in the aisle, giving him a small, un-needed gesture as I get to him, and then taking his seat as he drops down to sit on the floor at my feet.
• Wowing the International Leathermen at Folsom Street Faire, calling others to come look and one guy even dropping to his knees at the size of my boy’s cock.
• While vending at another kink event, the organizers decided to keep the vendor room open later, through dinner, to allow for more shopping time. He took the initiative to take pizza orders from the various vendors, place the order, collect the cash, greet the delivery boy at the door and distribute the slices, also getting drinks for those who needed them.
• Going in to setup for that event, he carried several boxes that I can only carry one-at-a-time, stacked very high, through the vendor room. My private pleasure was in turning around and seeing all the boxes there without my having to ask or wait or do anything. The pleasure in showing him off was in the approval of others, especially when a girl that was there by herself, representing one of the lingerie vendors, asked if she could borrow him. I was quite happy to oblige.

Events like that really stand out in my mind, and bring a smile to my face years (even over a decade!) later, but they aren’t necessarily the ones that you can script ahead of time. The right kind of boy does them because that is who he is, and then I find myself both wonderfully surprised and very happy to show him off.

Ask me something worthy of a response. *Adults Only*

New Non-Holiday Assignment: Attending a FemDom Play Party

I'm inspired to do a new non-holiday assignment. In it, you will imagine yourself accompanying me to a FemDom party. I'll list things that we will do there, allowing you to choose between some activities. You will imagine doing those things and send me back a report of your experience.

Who's game?

Yummy Femme Domme Weekend

Saturday night was the local Female Dominants' Group's Valentine Ball.

I wore my Pomba gown, which is made of black silk and mesh decorated with red laces and sequins. My favorite local pantyboy was again my escort. He is so wonderful and has a way of making me laugh. He made us dinner before the party, as well as our food for the potluck, chauffeured, etc. I had a lot of fun glittering him up, and dressed as a naughty faerie, he won the costume contest.

I tried seated trampling in a pre-arranged scene with a very experienced foot boy and had a blast. I could push and rub and press as I wanted, standing up almost off the chair when I wanted to really add my weight. Not having to worry about keeping my balance let both of us relax into the sensations, and it was really hot! I knw that he loves being under a woman, and I got into thinking about all the ways that I could enjoy being above him. ;-)

Finally, I ran into a boy that I had introduced to the group a while back. His personal situation has changed, and I had a wonderful time sitting and talking with him as he lightly caressed, massaged and kissed me as I wanted. He has wonderfully sensual hands and lips, and I'm looking forward to talking with him again soon.

Sunday afternoon, I released my remainng desires from Saturday night on my UK sissy, jezi...totally and completely enjoying her for my pleasure. ;-) We haven't had much time together in real time recently, and I made time on both Saturday and Sunday afternoon to renew that connection. Sunday was the amazing day, and the perfect cherry on top of the night before.

Sunday night was this month's FemDom CHAT. The topic: "Covert Domination: Play, Rituals, Behavior, and Training You Can Do in Public." It make it a lot more enjoyable to me to have a male subs input on our discussions. A married sub that I have been mentoring was also listening in, and I had a good time chatting back and forth with him privately about the discussion, as well as speaking with Auburn and devious on the actual CHAT itself.

Yummy FemDom Party Tonight ~

The local Female Dominant group had a yummy party tonight, including five demo stations where you can also try out what was being shown: Trampling, Cupping, CBT, Rough Body Play and Violet Wand Play. All were presented ny Dommes who are known in the local community for their wonderful skills. I went with an ex-boy of mine who is now a very good friend, and had a wonderful time enjoying his service throughout the evening. There was lots of whipping going on, but being the Queen that I am, I enjoyed a foot massage, back rub, toe sucking and other body worship, as well as general service. He knows what I like and how I like it, and I very much enjoyed having him serve me.

I also got to show him off in pink panties, three-ring-circus cock ring and pink stockings. He started out in very shiny pleather pants, but switched to a school girl skirt, which I later took off so that I could enjoy him in just the pink pretties. He had on sparkly nude nail polish, but pink glitter toe nail polish (which I had given him while we were together). I just had my finger and toe nails done in my favorite rose color, and I should have asked him to switch to the same shade. I wore an elegant nightgown and robe set that I usually reserve for the winter time. Topped off with black velvet cups, the body of the floor-length spaghetti-strap gown is a heavy silver satin with a sheer black burnout design that is reminiscent of bare trees in the winter time, or Asian cherry blossoms. The matching floor-length robe is a weighty black velvet, with wide bands of matching satin trim along the front edge and at the cuffs. The sheerness of the black design moving across my body creates just a touch of intrigue without showing too much. Underneath, I wore a new pair of hi-cut panties from my recent panty shopping trip with this very same boy. They are made of a light-weight black polyester fabric with a thin vertical metallic silver pinstripe runing throughout, and trimmed with a small black satin bow at the front waist and beautiful black lace around each leg.