Monday, September 29, 2014

Cock Ring Collars (NSFW)

As many of you know, azpanties' full collar is a cock ring from Gear Essentials, which we refer to as "The Mistress". At Gear Essentials, it's called the Master, but being that I'm a Femme Domme, I had to make a slight adjustment!

Except for cleaning and the occasional recovery period after play, azp wears it whenever he isn't wearing his CB-6000, Three Ring Circus or other specific items for play.

I love cock rings for 24/7 collars because my subs can wear them without anyone knowing, and yet they are always being reminded of me by their presence. It's our little secret. ;-) ...And, well, if someone does get a glimpse at the gym, that's even better!

As they go about their day, the weighty hug of My ring around their package reinforces who they, and that package, really belong to. And, since my subs are usually in self-control chastity, they're also a reminder not to touch - and of how much they want to!

In addition, I love how a well-fitted cock ring visually presents and accents My property. Just seeing My boy in My ring can be a huge turn-on. ;-)

Cock rings come in different styles, for different purposes. Weighty steel ones are yummy on virile subs while cute, pink, aluminium ones are perfect for sissies!

(The large Cock and Ball Ring shown above right is The Hold, which I'll be reviewing next. In the mean time, get 20% off any purchase from Gear Essentials - the home of well-crafted, wearable cock rings - with the Discount Code:
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To see more of the vast variety of cock rings available, many of which are not wearable long-term, check out: The Stockroom in the US and Uberkinky in the UK.

When selecting a ring to wear long-term, it should not be stretchy, and rigid "O" rings are generally best. Sizing is very important: It needs to be tight enough not to slip off on it's own, but loose enough not to cut off the circulation. Even an 1/8" can make a real difference.

Yes, I know that cock rings often come with warnings not to to wear them for more than 30 minutes. That's because a stretchy or too tight ring can cut off your circulation, causing serious damage. (Please save those tight, stretchy ones for sex, or just toss them if they're uncomfortable.)

In reality, confirming that you have the right size ring is like checking someone who is in restraints - can you slide a finger under there? Is anything turning the wrong color? Are your balls suddenly cold? That's why my Cock Ring Training Assignment starts off slowly, with wearing rubber sizing rings around the house before you work your way up to Heavy Metal. If you're interested in doing it, email me at: ForMistressMagick *at* yahoo *dot* com, and request it. I'll soon be updating and expanding it for publication on Amazon.

The advantage of starting out real-time in the Leather community is that I'd seen plenty of hot guys - one's who really knew their way around a cock and balls - wearing rings for hours. Once you know it fits, you're usually fine.

However, you are not supposed to wear a cock ring while you're sleeping. It can shift around and cause nerve damage because you're not awake to adjust it. For that reason, azp is allowed to take his ring off for sleeping, but he rarely does. It seems to stay in place very well, but everyone is different. By contrast, when the pantyboy tried to sleep in his aluminum ring, he would always wake up to find it loose in the bed! And yes, they both fit equally well. That being said, I do not advise you try sleeping in one.

For more info, from my favorite kinky craftsmen

Why Wear a Cock Ring? 
Includes the basics of sizing and how to put on an "O" ring.
(Click the Link at the Top or Scroll Down)

Detailed Sizing for Cock Rings, Head/Glans Rings and Ball Weights

How Long Can You Wear a Cock Ring
(From the folks who know!)

More info on the rings pictured above:

Master/Mistress Cock Ring: collections/stainless-steel-cockrings/products/master

The Hold Cock and Ball Cage collections/cockrings/ products/the-hold-cock-ball-cage

Here azp is wearing both of them stacked ...and dripping! :-)

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Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Review: DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Heart Slapper "Paddle" from Lovehoney

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As my personal subs know, in addition to being a loving Domme, I can also be a silly romantic. I'm a sucker for rose and heart-shaped toys, so I jumped at the chance when Lovehoney gave me the opportunity to review this heart-cutout slapper.

First, this is a slapper. Saying that it's a "slapper paddle" is technically redundant, but helpful for those who aren't familiar with the term. Basically, slappers are used like paddles, but they are specifically designed to make a louder sound when they hit. A slapper has two layers of leather (sometimes more) that are not joined together.

The additional layer catches the air, creating a loud "slap" when it lands that often sounds much worse than it actually is. On traditional slappers, the back layer of leather is often split into multiple strips and only the front side is used for hitting. Other designs feature holes or multiple strips of leather of varying lengths.

The advantage of this slapper is that it is designed so that either side can be used for hitting...

and, with a little practice, the cutout will leave a mark with a heart-shaped center on your target! ;-)

Like any good slapper, it has a satisfying sound, but the cutout and heavy leather give it a nice sting as well.

This product is shipped in a plain plastic bag with no unnecessary packaging, however there isn't a label specifying materials or the country of origin. I was a little disappointed when I opened the plastic bag, because I'd read that it has a strong leather smell. However, mine smelled of chemicals. It's been sitting out of the bag off-gassing for about three weeks, and now the leather smell is starting to come through if I really sniff it. I asked Lovehoney, and they told me that it is made in Poland, using Italian Leather.

The slapper is unlined and the handle is the only stitched area on the slapper. Reinforced with wood*, rather than metal, it fits nicely in the hand, and includes a knotted leather tie for hanging.

* The reinforcement is round, like a wooden dowel, rather than the rectangular shape shown in some of the pics on the Lovehoney website.

Speaking of the website, Lovehoney also offers this DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Heart Paddle (UK Link), and together they would make a lovely set.

DOMINIX is Lovehoney's luxury bondage line. While these are better made and in line with what you would find on a serious BDSM site, I wouldn't call this particular item "luxurious". However, it is a cute slapper that will definitely leave it's mark.

Personally, I'd love to have the matching paddle to make the set. *hint* *hint*


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