Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Is PayPal Fascist?

Now that I have your attention, I would like to ask for your help:

As some of you know, PayPal "limited" my accounts. (It is locked so that I can not send or receive money, and I am NEVER supposed to have a PayPal account ever again.)

I have *always* worked to keep my blogs free of pornography, and you will NEVER see "spread legs" and other degrading shots of women here. My blogs are published on the Kindle (a privilege that I intend to keep), and my forthcoming books will be as well. I had absolutely no reason to suspect that Paypal would have an issue with my blogs, and I was given absolutely no warning .. no information on what the issue was or opportunity to fix it... before they locked the accounts.

Yes, I'm a lifestyle Domme and a writer, and I write about those things. Apparently my having donation buttons on my blogs and accepting payments for my written assignments and email training was against their TOS. The buttons were taken down as soon as we knew that there was an issue, however they refuse to even consider reinstating the accounts.

Okay.. I understand that they might have an issue with adult content (I just wish they had been clear about what was acceptable), and I am already working on setting up an account via a service that will be okay with the content here, but here's the problem:

I used my publisher's PayPal account for some of the buttons because I did not to want to use my legal name on them. Instead, she added my ForMistressMagick *at* yahoo *dot* com address to her account.

She is an established eBay seller, selling there since 1998, when she had an eBay business, and has thousands of positive feedback ratings. It is true that she is no longer selling those items, however she is still an active eBay buyer and seller.. or was.

She spent two weeks going back and forth with Paypal via email and on the phone before giving up. They kept doing things like calling her back at the conference room that she had called from the day before (for privacy) rather than using the number that she gave them to use. One of the women in customer support that she talked to (after waiting on hold for half an hour during her lunch hour), was freaked out by the idea that I would send guys out to buy panties and wear them, and tried to get her to say that I was selling sexual services and pornography, which I am not.

The same woman also told her that she would not be able to sell copies of my books via Paypal*, which is obviously untrue. If you go to eBay and search on "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns" you will find at least half a dozen listings which can be purchased there and paid for via Paypal, and I suspect the same is true for most any other BDSM non-fiction book.

(*We are planning to sell the books via Amazon, but had hoped to be able to sell copies directly as well (including autographed ones), and are looking at different options for that now.)

This woman told her to write and submit a statement explaining what had happened and saying that she would never accept payments for me again, and she did just that. However, she just received the same "appeal denied" email as before.

She wanted to do some holiday shopping on eBay, and after weeks of frustration, she tried opening a new account with one of the few unused emails and unused credit cards she had left (none of the ones on her locked accounts can ever be used again on the PayPal site), indicating that it was a personal account and only for buying items on eBay. Paypal immediately blocked it.

She tried calling them about it. According to them, she is supposed to NEVER have an account with them again either, and that it is not an appealable offense. They refused to let her talk to a supervisor when she called. Eventually they promised her that they would call her back the next day at the phone number and time she specified, but never called.

I am really upset that she is banned, and having to deal with all of this frustration because of me. At this point, all she wants to be able to do is to buy on eBay, and possibly to sell a few used, vanilla books. We're obviously never going to try using PayPal for anything of an adult nature *ever* again.

If you want to help, boycott PayPal and/or email and complain.

And please forward this to let other PayPal users know that their account can be locked with absolutely no warning and no real recourse.

Thanks so much,

Mistress Magick

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

December/Yule & January Assignment Updates

This weekend, I uploaded a couple of the Holly-Day Panties reports to my InHerService report blog. I do expect a couple more "wearing reports" to come in from those who purchased their panties before going offline for the holidays.

I'm also still getting requests for the assignment. However, while I did see some on clearance at Cacique today, I feel like it's too really too late for Christmas panties. (Though it's still not too late for Yule presents. ;-))

On the other hand, I'm beginning to think that it might be fun to have some of you wearing "festive panties" in a different color for New Year's Eve! Hmmmmm... I wonder what color might be appropriate. It's probably too late to order gold or silver sequined or metallic undies! And I think I might make it "By Invitation Only".

Speaking of New Year's, the January assignment is going to be on the theme of Janus (looking back & looking forward). Part of it will be like New Year's Resolutions, but it is going to be more complex. It is really only for the submissives who are interested in serving me &/or training with me in the coming year, and it will probably be due around  mid-January in order to allow time for you to complete my Valentine's assignment by/on February 14.

You can start requesting the January assignment now, by emailing:
ForMistressMagick *at* yahoo *dot* com

Monday, December 27, 2010

Kink-Colored Glasses: Puppy Footies

I was downloading pics of my new everyday panties from my phone, when I realized that I had never posted these.

I spotted these Adult-Sized, Doggie-Themed, One-Piece, Footed, Fleece PJs in the Ladies Sleepwear department at Target before Christmas. While I usually have my puppies wear as little as possible, my first thought was that it would make a nice fuzzy "coat" for a puppy during the colder months. I'm not sure what my European puppy, mutt, would think of them, especially in pink. However, I know a couple furries who would have a happy fit!

Now, I do have to admit that I found them a little confuzzling: The feet have a generic, cartoonish puppy face that looks more like... maybe... hmmmm... a beagle? Whereas the design on the chest looks closer to a Scottie. Perhaps they were genetically confused? (Oh.. wait.. they must have been! How else do you get two heads on your feet?)

In case you're wondering, the red ones in the pic are the Nick & Nora® Womens Sock Monkey Footed Pajamas Set - Red. I didn't find the puppy ones on the Target site, however, you can also get a "jump" on my Easter assignment with the Nick & Nora® Womens Bunny Footed Pajamas Set - Pink.

Sissies ~

I must remember that every time I do a feminization assignment, I am likely to get at least a couple sissies or CDs who want all my attention, but who aren't interested in giving back.

Given the choice between:

- Someone who wants to tell you all their fantasies, just wants to wank to thoughts of you, and/or only wants you to take care of them. 

- Someone who does what you ask, giving enjoyable responses and helpful feedback, and shows that they value your time and attention by giving back in some way.

Which would you choose?

And given the choice between the boy that I enjoy, and one who respects my time enough to tribute via gifts or service, there are always enough applicants that I need only choose those that do both.

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Buy my Written Assignments & .mp3s

I am bookmarking this page as a location where you can later buy my written assignments and .mp3s directly from me, rather than having to go through NiteFlirt, etc.

Blessed Yule & Happy Holly-Days!

I hope everyone had a Blessed Yule /
Beautiful Winter Solstice!

Wishing you the Happiest of Holidays,
however you celebrate!

Saturday, December 18, 2010

A Few of My Favorite Things ~

Because you asked, both to know me better and to have some idea of the holiday gifts I might like, I have decided to share the below. It's a list that I usually keep for my personal submissives.
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Textures: Leather, Velvet, Silk, Lace, Satin, Single-colored Jacquard Designs

Colors: Black, Purple, Metallic Gold, Forest Green, Sage Green, Burgundy, Dark Rose

Sleek black for iPods, phones, etc. and always black for leather. Black with gold, ivory, sage green or silver grey for bedding (queen sized, of course). I only prefer silver over gold are for things like cars & computers, where it really looks better.

When in doubt, go with black, possibly accented with gold. As my sub, you’ll learn that those are my signature colors. As you might have noticed, purple has also become a real favorite. ;-)

Stones: Onyx, Hematite, Amethyst, Rose Quartz – Diamonds are my birthstone.

I usually only wear gold or brass jewelry. Gold-filled is okay. Gold-plated is just tacky!

Motifs: Roses; Stars, Moons and Suns; Goddesses; Angels; Celtic-knot, Astrological, Greek, Roman, Asian (especially Japanese) and Egyptian patterns & symbols; Lotus Blossoms

Flavors: Chocolate w/ Raspberry or w/ Hazelnut or other nuts; Ginger; Peaches; Dark Cherries; Cashews. I only like fresh strawberries, preferably chocolate-dipped.

Drinks: Sweet champagnes & meads; Chai lattes; Hot chocolate (see flavors above); Bellinis; Frozen Peachy or Mango-flavored Girlie Drinks

Restaurants: The Cheesecake Factory, The Melting Pot, Firebird’s (steak house with the BEST prime rib), Kanki, Outback; Japanese restaurants, also Thai, Chinese, Indian, American, etc.

I don’t like “hot" food – no hot peppers or wasabi -- but I love things with lots of herbs and flavor (rosemary, garlic, ginger, yellow curry, etc).

I have wishlists for my birthday, holidays, etc. on

When you select something from a list, remember to indicate that you have purchased it.

Also, Gift Certificates from the following are always welcome:

- Amazon – I buy most of my books, movies and music from Amazon or Amazon third-party sellers, and get many other goodies and essentials from there as well.

- Target – My favorite place to shop for everyday things, from nail polish to new sheets. I prefer the hardcopy Gift Cards (not the online certificates) so that I can use them in the store, however they will not ship them to PO Boxes. For a personal touch, pick up a cute one from your local store and tuck it inside a greeting card.

- Barnes & Noble – I prefer the Gift Cards (not the online-only certificates) so they can be used in the store - to buy journals & Godiva chocolates, and to sit in the cafĂ© and sip chai lattes. (I like to look at books at B&N, but I usually buy them from Amazon.)

Online Gift Certificates can be sent to:
ForMistressMagick *at*

You can send gift cards and other items to me via my publisher:

M. Magick
c/o MoonDance Publications
P O Box 14134
Durham, NC 27709-4134

DO NOT put “Mistress Magick” on the outside of the package, however interior notes can be addressed that way. Also, send me an e-mail so that I can ask her to watch for the package.

Holly-Day Panties

Taken from a 1952 Esquire calendar, thanks so much to @SlipofaGirl for letting me share this image with all of you! I saw it when she posted it in her blog at: 

While I'm not so much into "candy cane" striped panties, looking at it happily reminds me of all of you boys and girls as you are busy shopping for, and wearing, your Holly-Day panties for me. ;-)  And I do have to admit that these bloomers, which she mentions, might be awlfully sweet for certain sissies.

P.S. Don't miss the Holly-Day Panty Shopping Report I posted yesterday at  

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Yule Panties & Outfits for the UK boys & girls!

Look what my darling jezi-girl found (Good girl!):

Ann Summers has a nice assortment of Mrs/Miss Santa outfits, all of which meet with my approval. The apron, and the North Pole bra and thong could also be acceptable.

As far as the panties go, I'd prefer the "Seducing Santa" shorts WITHOUT the message on the back, but I like the "Christmas Cracker" Knickers (shown at right) - they are more girlie and come in what look like reasonably large sizes for the UK. There's also some naughty reindeer and snowman pouches that I will consider an acceptable non-femme substitute for the boys out there. Remember: if you are just buying undies, that they need to be ones that you can wear all day under your regular clothes.

jezi is also going to check out this Tartan thong (at left) at Debenhams, which looks like it might be much more her style:

One of the things that I like about this kind of assignment is how each of you shows your personality in the item(s) that you buy. Along those same lines, WP2, who is definitely all boy, found the below Cookie Monster Holiday Panties at Primark:

The less expensive stores are more likely to have the holiday novelty items, so don't be afraid to check them out! They are perfectly acceptable for this assignment. Also, because they can be hard to find, you are allowed to buy your Holly-Day panties online, but you need to order them NOW if you are going to do so. There are some links for US sources in the original post and in the assignment itself.

So far, I only have the one shopping report (from WP2). I'm looking forward to him wearing his panties while he attends some holiday parties this weekend. (One of which is at the same time as my own office party! That should be fun! ;-)) If you are interested in joining in, now is the the time to request my Yule Assignment and get your shopping on!

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

My Yule Assignment Has Been E-mailed

With Three Levels of Feminization, this year's Yule/Holly-Day assignment has a little something for everyone:

- Level One is a holiday panty buying & wearing assignment for those who don't normally crossdress, and generally would only wear panties in order to please their Mistress and/or because they enjoy the feel of them.

- Level Two is an online shopping assignment for sissies and other CDs/TVs/etc. who want to crossdress in sexy little outfits for their Mistress, but aren't able to do so because of privacy reasons.

- Level Three is a dressup assignment for sissies and other CDs/TVs/etc. who can find the time/privacy to buy and wear a special outfit just for me.

I expect most of my boys to participate at Level One, whereas my jezi will certainly do Level Two and will hopefully have the privacy for Level Three.

To participate, email: ForMistressMagick *at* Yahoo *dot* com and request my Yule Assignment.

The photo above is from Cacique:

Not only do they have the outfit above, also they have
Yummy Plus-Sized Holly-Day Panties on Sale for 50% off, including the ones below:
(Some of the best ones are already sold out, so you'd better hurry!)

Saturday, December 4, 2010

"Santa Baby" by Eartha Kitt
(with some en Femme "Friends")

An oldie, but a goodie: A version of my one my favorite holiday songs, done for the gurls!

And a bonus, in honour of today's early snow fall...

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

"Writing, Not Wanking"

I've decided that "Writing, Not Wanking" is my official slogan for my Written Punishments Chastity/Cock Control Assignments/Training! Some of you will be writing it in the near future! ;-)

If You Would Like To Apply to Me...