Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Using Written Punishments & Cock Control Training To Help Couples

I decided to cross-post the below from the report in my InHerService.com blog. I would love to do more training of this sort with male submissives, and I do believe that it can be used to help enhance their relationship with the Goddess in their life, or to help prepare them to be ready to serve Her when she comes along, as well as to improve their treatment of all women.
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When we started, I knew that SeekingP only intended to train with me while his Lady was out of town for a few months. While She has been gone, we have worked on his porn addiction and the fact that he needs to focus on Her service and pleasure rather than on letting his own selfish habits take his time and attention away from her. We have also worked on his disrespectful actions toward other women, such as his tendency to stare at their assets as they walk by on the street.

I am really glad to see that my combination of written punishments and cock control have made a difference for him. While I am sad to see him go, I understand that now he needs to focus on his own Goddess. And I do have to say that she is a very lucky lady to have such an intelligent and sensual boy who knows that it is his place to please Her. The fact that he noticed that his focus was straying from Her and took steps to change that speaks well of him. I would hope that I could help other committed couples in much the same way.

I don't think a few sessions will solve every problem, and do believe that long-term reinforcement may often be required. Since SeekingP was straightforward with me, I am happy to help, if at any point, he finds himself slipping or in need of additional training, and would welcome working with him again.

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Dear Mistress Magick,

I am happy that you have accepted my lines and have granted me an orgasm.

It took me a bit of time to start on this set of lines. I had used up almost all the pages of my legal sized notepad, so I had to go to the stationary shop and get myself a new pad of paper. I also had come down with a bit of a head cold, which was making me rather slow and tired. But after I assembled the necessary stationary, I started on my lines. This set of lines seemed to go quite slowly. It seemed to take a long time to even approach the half-way mark. But the lines were doing their job of reminding me of what's important and what I shouldn't do.

Going to work in the morning after having spent part of the previous night writing my line was a good experience. I could hear and feel my line in my head, reminding me that I was *not* allowed to stare at and ogle women. My focus should be on my Goddess, not on disrespecting random women in the street.

During this time, I'd been working on completing a To-Do list of things that I want to do in preparation for my Goddess's homecoming. It is now just a short time until she will be home, and I want to do what I can to welcome her, make her feel special and comfortable. And I'm also looking forward to the sex that we will have, and I've been fantasizing about all the different ways I want to pleasure and pamper her when she gets home.

I was happy when I finally finished my lines. I waited for your response and was happy to be granted an orgasm, as at that point it had been more than a week since I'd had one. It is amazing to know that I can go for a week or more without cumming and that such a schedule can begin to feel normal to my body, compared to sometimes having multiple orgasms per day when I was in charge of my cock.

I received your email on Thursday morning, so I'd have to wait until Thursday night to give myself an orgasm. I followed your instructions, thinking about my Goddess and all the ways I wanted to pleasure and pamper her. This was easy, as her impending return already had me thinking about the things I wanted to do to welcome her back, and all the different ways I want to kiss and lick her. I edged 4 or 5 times over the course of 20 minutes, and then finally pleasured myself until I went over the edge. The orgasm felt good, then I quickly licked my seed from my hand before it went cold or my arousal subsided. I don't enjoy the taste of my cum, but there it was...I thus cleaned up my mess and then went to sleep.

I am proud of myself, as it's been nearly a month since I've engaged in my porn habit. Instead, I've been able to focus on doing more productive things and on how I want to treat my Goddess and and our sexualities. But I also know that a month is not a lot of time, and that it is still quite easy to fall back into old habits, spending hours viewing porn on the internet. But so far I've been good, and I intend to really try to keep it up (no pun intended). My Goddess will now be home in a week, so I want to fill this week full of chores that I can do to make the house clean an welcoming for her return, as well as fantasies about all the different ways I want to hug, kiss and pleasure her when she gets back. Upon her return, I think it will be easy for me to focus on her and be a good submissive servant. In the longer term, it may be harder, but it's a challenge that I'm up for.

At the moment I can't think of other behaviours that I would like to address in this way. I feel that my behaviour has improved over the course of the last month, and now I'm trying to focus on my Goddess's return and on how I want to focus my sexuality on her.

In submission,

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Yule Love My New Holiday Assignment

While there are still a few days left to do my Naughty November Assignment, I am already working on my December Holiday Assignment. As usual, it will have a Yule/Christmas theme, however it is going to have Three Levels of Difficulty... or perhaps I should say "Sissification":

- Level One is a holiday panty assignment for those who don't normally crossdress, and generally would only wear panties in order to please their Mistress and/or because they enjoy the feel of them.

- Level Two is an online shopping assignment for sissies and other CDs/TVs/etc. who want to crossdress in sexy little outfits for their Mistress, but aren't able to do so because of privacy reasons.

- Level Three is a dressup assignment for sissies and other CDs/TVs/etc. who can find the time/privacy to buy and wear a special outfit just for me.

I expect most of my boys to participate at Level One, whereas my jezi will certainly do Level Two and will hopefully have the privacy for Level Three.

To participate, email me at ForMistressMagick *at* Yahoo *dot* com and request my Yule Assignment. Check back here for more updates.

Picture: Jingle Bell Boy Shorts from Frederick's: http://www.fredericks.com/Jingle_Bell_Boy_Short/92079,default,pd.html?cgid=li70

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Kink-Colored Glasses: Norman Rockwell & Writing Lines

It's quite obvious that the Written Punishments group, and the boys who are writing lines for me, have given me WP-colored glasses!

[Once you have experienced a kink, it can cause you have a tendency to look at the everyday world in a new way. I have dubbed this seeing the world through "kink-colored glasses". ;-) ]

Today, wolfmoon and I went to see the Norman Rockwell exhibit at the North Carolina Museum of Art. Included in the exhibit were tear sheets of all 323 of Rockwell's Saturday Evening Post covers. Early in his career (published October 27, 1917), he did one of a boy writing lines. It caught my eye, and, of course, I had to share it you. I wasn't able to take a photo, but I found this picture of it:


Thanksgiving Assignment - UK Style

My British assistant "test drove" the original Thanksgiving assignment today using Paxo. Some key points from his early feedback:

- It took about 30 minutes for the stuffing to cool enough to play with it.
- It stuck to his hands more than to his cock. Not sure why.
- Be careful not to get any of the onion bits from the stuffing in the urethra.
- It felt VERY erotic, and things went very quickly...though thoughts of serving me may have had something to do with that! ;-)
- Lucky for you boys, the strong taste of the Sage & Onion Stuffing overshadows the taste of the cum! ;-)

Update: The full report is now posted here:


Alternative Naughty November/Thanksgiving Assignment

I've updated my November assignment to include the option of doing an alternate version which uses cranberry sauce instead of stuffing. This is to allow those who can't eat gluten or who don't have the time/facities/privacy to make the stuffing to join in, however, I have decided to make both options open to everyone. You might even enjoy doing them both!

Click here to read the first report from the cranberry sauce version:
Alternative Naughty November/Thanksgiving Assignment Report

For those who don't already know, this a Messy Masturbation/Food Play Assignment, and it is definitely more naughty than my usual ribbon & panty ones! And, yes, a penis is required. ;-)

The deadline for completion of the assignment is November 30. Even if you are traveling for the holiday, or have family visiting, that should be enough time to give everyone an opportunity to join in.

Email: ForMistressMagick *at* Yahoo *dot* com and request the assignment for details.

Cranberry Sauce Art from: http://tararankin.wordpress.com/

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Written Punishments at Work!

The above pic is Mr. August from the 2011 Porn for Women Calendar, which I just received as a tribute. With all the recent written punishments and assignments that I have been giving, I had to share this with everyone. I love the way that his tie is thrown back, and he seems to really be getting into it. ;-)

The calendar is often more silly than sexy, but it is still fun, and it definitely makes me smile. The sexiest guy, and the only one with his shirt off, is the one on the cover, which you can see below. Enjoy!

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Naughty November Assignment:
"Cock & Cum Stuffing"

Update: My new Naughty November "Messy Food Masturbation" Assignment, which jezi aptly nicknamed "Cock and Cum Stuffing", has now been emailed.

If you would like to take part, and have not received it, email ForMistressMagick *at* yahoo *dot* com and request it.

PS - I now have an alternative version available in case you are allergic to gluten, or don't have the capability to prepare the stuffing. If that is the case, make sure to ask me for information on the alternative version, and tell me why you need/want to do it.

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Written Punishments, Cock Control and an Excellent Punishment & Infractions Report

The report below, published with permission, is a illustration of why certain boys ask me for written punishments. It is from a new punishee, not WP2, whose better reports I have been publishing in my InHerService blog.

The first boy who approached me for written punishments (neither of these two) asked to be made to write lines and submit fines for his disrespectful acts toward women, such as cutting them off in traffic, or leering at certain parts of their anatomy. (I now call these punishments "lines and fines" because that is exactly what they are.) He wanted me to role play as a judge, representing the Court of Women, and punishing him for his misdeeds toward the better half of the human race.

Around this time I asked my boy, ed cantor, if he could see me, a loving Domme, in the role of a firm and strict "Lady Disciplinarian", the title given to me by this boy, to which he responded with a lovely piece, called simply "Disciplinarian" which some of you may remember. It reminded me, with the warmest glow, that a firm hand sometimes shows more love than a permissive smile.

As I started giving this first boy his punishments, I found that the Superior Female/"Goddess archetype" in me was really enjoying handing them down. I asked him more about the culture of written punishments, and was directed to a Yahoo Group dedicated to them. I joined and am really enjoying being a part of the group. I have learned a lot there about new and different types of written punishments: essays, copying, etc., as well as ways to make writing lines more difficult.

I also now have a WP Assistant there, johnj, who helps me with researching new assignments and potential punishees/trainees. He is great at brainstorming, gives good feedback, and if I ask him to do something, I know that it WILL be done, and promptly so.

The group itself has more of a classroom/school days focus, with weekly homework essays, students being punished for acting up in class, etc. Like the boys that I am training off-list, I do generally prefer a more adult approach. I have found that the boys who come to me off-list usually do so for one of two reasons:

- They want to be punished for activities that are not suitable to be discussed on a PG-rated list. These included excessive masturbation, leering at women, porn addiction, causing women to go out of their way to bend over so they can get a better view, fingering a female friend's unworn panties, etc.

I'm starting to combine punishments for boys like these with cock control, requiring chastity while they do their punishment work, and only potentially allowing a release, as I dictate, once their work has been completed and accepted by me. Obviously, this is a strong motivator to finish their task. At the same time, it teaches them to better control their urges and to focus on respecting women rather than on using them for their own pleasure. It is my firm belief that a man's penis is for the pleasure of the woman (or women) in his life, and that he will gain the most pleasure from it when he learns to focus on her needs and desires instead of on his own selfishness.

- They want to be punished in ways that they can't be on the list.

The biggie is the desire to send me lines so that I can tear them up. After many years of refusing offers from boys who wanted to buy me a webcam (I didn't want one because I didn't want to cam), I finally gave in for one of these punishees. It has always been my feeling that going on cam in an intimate way is a sexual service and is often very slutty. (I also wish to protect my identity for work reasons.) Therefore, as a Domme, it has always been my policy that I do not cam, but I do enjoy watching boys cam for me as long as they are respectful, focused on me, follow orders, etc. In this case, I am videotaping only my hands as I tear up the lines or essay. Therefore, it is not live, and only shows exactly what I want it to show. The "careful exhibitionist" in me does enjoy that part, and I'm contemplating doing future videos of just my feet, etc. For now, I have a couple boys who are willing to airmail me their work from the UK just so that I can tear it up!

I can also have boys wear certain items (panties, male thong, cock ring, etc.) or do their writing in certain locations, in order to remind them of the reason for their punishment and/or make them feel more submissive while doing it. These additions are not allowed for on-list assignments, however they can add significantly to the experience. Reading some of WP2's reports shows just how much:
- http://www.inherservice.com/2010/09/written-punishments-in-library.html
- http://www.inherservice.com/2010/10/caught-writing-lines-while-wearing.html

I must admit that I am finding the written punishments combined with cock control to be a huge turn-on and they are often my favorite. I'm enjoying having trainees write for other reasons as well, such as improving their health, or recreating a memory or fantasy from another time, and I'm even starting to combine off and onlist training for some boys whose training is less sexual in nature. This is because we enjoy the exhibitionism of having them report the punishments on the list and/or because it adds an element to the possible punishment (being under the list rules adds the possibility of expulsion from the list) for list members whose tasks are not completed in a timely manner. I may write more about that later.

For now, I will leave you to read the report:

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Dear Mistress Magick,

Thank you for accepting my work, it makes me happy to know that the work was up to your high standards. As you noted, the scanner itself has seen better days, and does produce some spots.

I will remember your suggestion of a thank you paragraph if I'm required to write lines to you once again.

Thank you for granting me an orgasm, it was enjoyable to give myself release on your command. You requested that I think of and report on other offences:

In terms of other porn-viewing occasions, there are so many that it's difficult to know where to begin. I have been interested in porn and kinky porn for many years, and have spent quite a lot of time viewing it. I have nothing against the production or viewing of porn per se, though I find that the way porn is produced and consumed is quite symptomatic of the subjugation and objectification of women in society. However, I often have found myself spending many hours viewing porn, in search of the one picture that really does it for me and takes me over the edge. These are hours that I'm spending on my own pleasure, rather than doing more productive things for myself or for my Goddess. The submissive in me finds the waste of hours of time looking at porn to be unacceptable.

However, one common situation does stand out to me. My partner is an early riser and often goes to bed before me. I am a late bird, so I would often not go to bed with her, but rather stay up a bit later. Often I would feel horny and end up staying up very late, viewing porn and masturbating. And I would usually feel guilty afterwards...I should have been pleasuring and hugging my Goddess, but instead I've wasted my time objectifying other women and focusing my energy on them.

The other thing that I've felt deserves to be punished is my sometimes leering behaviour on the street. I smoke (yes, I do want to quit at some point, but not right at the moment. And when I do I think I want to keep quitting and my kink separate.) so when I'm at work I go outside the building and smoke. When I do so, I often find myself pacing around and turning my head in order to have a look at the buttocks of women who walk by on the sidewalk. Now, I think it's somewhat natural to look at an attractive person who walks by. But it's another thing to do so in an obvious way...and I think I cross that line sometimes. Especially when I'm feeling horny, I will leer at the bottoms of the women who walk by. I would like to change this behaviour, and I have to some extent, but there is also something quite natural and automatic about eyeing attractive people who walk by. I feel that some discipline might do me some good, though I also struggle to find a good strategy to avoid leering. Do I stare at the ground instead? There is just something so natural about watching the women walk by, I struggle to avoid it.

As to my feelings being punished, I found the experience quite powerful. I had to muster the courage to ask for a punishment on the list. Requesting punishment is a weird thing. I didn't think I'd really enjoy writing all those lines, so requesting something that will be less than pleasant is a weird thing. But I also kink on it. One thing is kinking on the punishment and having a sort of play 'offence' to justify it. But if it is something that I really feel bad about and want to change, then it somehow goes beyond just play somehow. Because a lot of kinky play is activity that I really like...but writing lines?? But I asked...and waited for a response.

I was quite excited when I got your response. I have found that anticipation can be very stimulating, guessing at what your punishment might be. I thought of doing the lines not because I wanted to, but because I wanted to improve myself and also obey a dominant woman. So that was a happy, nervous sort of anticipation. When I got the assignment, I was still quite turned on by the thought of the punishment. I savoured the opportunity to carry out your command.

Once I began writing the lines, I found it tedious, boring and painful. It was not really fun to spend all that time writing lines and having my hand hurt, even if I am a bit of a masochist. However, I knew why I was writing them and knew that I just needed to go ahead and finish. Wearing a thong while writing them also reminded me of my submission and my desire to be a good submissive slut. In my mind I thought that this punishment might help me to avoid the offensive behaviour, which made me hopeful at the same time. And I have to say I am proud that I now haven't viewed porn since the beginning of last weekend. Not really much time to be proud of, but it is nonetheless satisfying.

All that time, I didn't masturbate. With my lover not around and knowing I didn't have permission to orgasm, I found it was actually easier than I thought to abstain from playing with myself. When she is around, I think I find her presence arousing (as it should be!) and so chastity periods can be quite teasing and frustrating. But this one has been a bit easier, perhaps because I've started to exercise on a more regular basis in the last couple of weeks. I find that does alter the patterns of my libido.

When I finally finished all the lines, I was quite happy and pleased with myself. I scanned them and converted the files (I'm a techie IT person, but it still took me a couple hours to scan and convert!) and sent them off to you. Then began another period of anticipation. But we subs must learn that sometimes we have to wait. Would you accept them? Would I get an additional punishment? Would I be granted an orgasm. Submitting to your decisions in those matters is both slightly nerve-racking and also quite erotic.

I waited in anticipation of your email and instructions. When I received your email, I was joyed to hear that I could have an orgasm. This morning, I did my 15 minutes exercise, then kneeled in the bedroom and masturbated to thoughts of you, of submitting to your punishment, of my Lovely Goddess, and of how it is to have someone else controlling my cock. I came in the shot glass. Then I tipped it back and drank it. It went down pretty quick. I really dislike the taste of my cum, I just don't enjoy it. It was quite difficult to do, but I know what my orders were and carried them out. Drinking my own seed feels quite powerful, as it really is something that I would *not* follow through with if left to my own devices. But I did it, and it feels like a very submissive act. I also feel there is a sort of justice to it, since I am 'cleaning up my own mess' instead of leaving stains on bed sheets, underwear, etc. So it's powerful, but I'd definitely say I'm not used to the taste itself...I don't think I'll ever get used to that. Now the taste of a woman, on the other hand... :)

And so that's where I am now. It's after midnight, but I still feel like I can feel a bit of the salty protein-rich taste on my tongue. And another day has past in which I have not viewed porn. And now I wonder when my next orgasm might be...since I have agreed that that is not in my control right now.

Thank you for taking the time to punish me, and for controlling my cock. It is a sometimes contradictory and strange journey, but I find it quite captivating and exciting. I guess that's sexual submission.

Thank you for reading these rambling notes I have written.

Yours truly,

Monday, November 8, 2010

What's the punishment for slaves who come too early...do you give permission to your slaves to lick their own cum...do you fist them...

Slaves who cum before they are given permission to do so are not allowed to serve in that capacity again until they learn better control. If they have any problems understanding that they are there for my pleasure and not for their own, they are dismissed.

I *require* my boys to consume their own cum. Being trained in Tantric practices, I believe that to do otherwise is to waste their energy. This is also another sign of their submission to me.

I don't fist anyone, and know other ways to stimulate the prostate, if I care to do so.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

"Don't Be A Turkey"
Assignment Contest

I think I want to do something with a turkey theme for my November assignment, but what? I can't imagine having you dress as one. So I decided to ask you, my loyal readers:  If you were to imagine a turkey assignment or other kinky Thanksgiving-themed assignment, what would it be?

Send your idea to me at ForMistressMagick *at* yahoo *dot* com by November 10. If I select your idea, you will have an opportiunity to "test drive" the assignment that I write based on it with me. You will also be recognized (using whatever name you choose) in my blog & on Twitter... and perhaps in an upcoming book as well.

P.S. I do also have a "messy masturbation" idea for one using a particular food. I'm just not sure if it's the one that I want to use. If you want to give it a try, email me and request it.

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