Monday, July 26, 2010

What do you find the most sexy about a man dressed in lingerie??

I have a fetish for the contrast of what we see as masculine and feminine, and there's nothing sexier than a nice hard man covered in soft, delicate lace.

I especially love opaque black panties or thong with a black lace garter belt and black lace-topped stockings -- the lace frames the "package" and shows off the buns, while the panties cling in such a way that hints at what is underneath.

Photo: Censored version of a pic that I took of "the pantyboy" over a year ago.
Those yummy black/silver glittery panties are NOT opaque. Worn over my favorite garter stockings.

Sunday, July 25, 2010


I delight in getting daily (or as frequent as possible) panty reports from my pantyboys and sissy gurls. While, they certainly evolved out of my Valentine's and other panty-wearing assignments, I think they officially started a couple years ago with dena. She actually sent me daily morning and evening lingerie reports, including which stockings and bra she was wearing under her very masculine workclothes, and which gown or nightie she changed into in the evening. Occasionally, I would select her lingerie for the next day or have her change during our chats, but at other times, I enjoyed seeing what she selected and why.

Then came the pantyboy, who sent me a panty pic after he showered each day. If he didn't have a chance to take it at home before work, he'd sneak in to the washroom there and send me one from his phone. ;-) He had hundreds of panties, so I challenged him to never wear the same pair twice, and I have quite a gallery of his pics.

jezi has been doing panty reports as close to daily as her schedule allows for the past year. I've been mentoring her on writing detailed descriptions, which should include the color, style/cut and fabric of the panties, as well as details of the design, such as the placement, color and style of any trim, edging, lace, ruffles, buttons, bows, etc. First, I like to try to visualize the panties from her description, then I review a pic if she has one, and suggest additions and changes to the description. She can be a bit shy about tweeting her reports, but loves it when I mention her, so I sometimes tweet my own edited versions.

Of course, as part of their training, all three of them learned my favorite colors and styles, and began to buy and select lingerie in the colors and styles that I preferred on them.  dena and I had matching nightwear. The pantyboy often wore pink and black together... pink for him and black for me... with sexy lacings and ribbons. With jezi, purple has grown to be "our color", and we have matching peignoir sets as well as panties.

I'm proud to be able to say that I've also inspired sillydollyanne and others on Twitter to begin tweeting their daily panty reports. And with jezi and bella both offline for a bit, the others are stepping up to fill in, making sure that my delight continues. :-)

With so many good gurls and naughty boys tweeting, I've decided to establish the hashtag #DailyPanties for daily panty reports. I also set up a Twibe which will automatically collect unprotected tweets with the proper hashtag, although they may take up to 24 hours to show up there. If your tweets are protected, make sure to add @Mistress_Magick to your tweet unless you are sure that I'm following you. (I do intentionally keep the list of those that I follow very short so that I can easily keep up with them.)

I'm looking forward to reading your reports so please spread the word about the #DailyPanties hashtag, and use it. The more the merrier!

And, in case you're wondering, I just changed into a fresh pair of the panties pictured above. I originally purchased 10 pairs because I wanted something sexy for everyday wear.

Thursday, July 22, 2010

4th of July, Troisieme Prise: Bastille Day & Beyond

Wow, it's been a HOT July! ... and not just the temperature. ;-)

About a week ago, a sub commented that I hadn't been updating my blogs recently. I thought that I had, but when I looked at them, I realized that they have been somewhat quiet. I've actually been much more busy than normal, however I was spending all of my "free" time mentoring the boys who were still completing my July ribbon assignment and getting to know the "standouts" from the group who had actually completed it on July 4th. In all, I had eight boys do the assignment: four on the 4th itself, and four on or around Bastille Day. Things are quieting back down now, as I knew they would. It just takes a while to shift through them to find the true treasures.

One thing that stands out: the two boys who ran out to buy ribbons on July 4th so that they could do the assignment on the proper day (even though they found out about it late) are also the two that I would consider the "cream" of the newbie crop. In fact, the one that I am now formally considering actually used something else to start the assignment the night before, then ran out to get the ribbons as soon as he could the next morning. He proceeded to spend an entire 24 hours in them, on my orders of course, even after having been tied up the night before. He was one eager boy, and still is, but in an a very enjoyable and delightful way.

By contrast, a couple of the boys who opted to do it later were at the exact opposite end of the spectrum. The main difference that I see in those who really excelled and those who were more work than they were worth is exactly that, respect for my time - as well as a focus on me as their Mistress, and it being an experience through which they were serving me, and a pleasure that we both shared. The worst two expected far more attention than the others, and, in the end, they were only really focused on their own pleasure.

I'd decided that using my assignments to screen potential new online submissives would be a much more productive use of my time than my previous series of email questionaires. I do think that is still true, but I am also being reminded that there will always be a certain number of wankers and jerks out there, and that sometimes I have to be hard on them. I hate having to write letters like the below, but sometimes it's necessary:

You disrespected me in private.

You failed to complete your assignment in a timely fashion.

You disrespected me *and* embarassed me in public.

All within less than a week.

As far as I can tell, you are not sincere or submissive, and are just a horny boy looking for a cheap thrill.

I don't mind occasionally training such boys if they are respectful and if they tribute. However you have done neither.

I'm done with you.



It is true that sometimes I honestly don't mind a boy who is just doing it for the turn-on, as long as he is honest, respectful and values my time. However, please don't expect me to give you my attention all day long when you aren't really willing to give me a reasonable exchange of energy in return.

I've decided to attempt to make prodcutive use of this experience by providing some "do's" and "don'ts" for your future reference.

I've already posted some examples of reports from the boys whom I enjoy the most when it comes to their ability to express their intimate and sensual ideas in writing.

You should also be aware that I get reports from others which I also greatly enjoy, but which aren't as flambouyant, or whose authors are more shy about having their words shared. Don't feel that you have to live up to ed and capn. Just be honest and respectful, use some common sense, and focus on my service and pleasure.

... And, well, don't do any of the following (yes, these are real examples from this most recent assignment):

- Email me asking if you should get the thick or thin ribbon, and which work better on your cock. I can't see the ribbon and I've never seen your cock, so how would I know? If I give you the leeway to be creative, I don't want to be bothered with that kind of detail. If I cared, I would have specified the width in the assignment. If you can't decide, do what the boys who excel do: Buy both, and tell me about it in your shopping report. Then I can decide if I want to select one for you to wear, or to have you wear both.

- Email me from the ribbon store at 5am my time, expecting a response. Yes, I forgive you for forgetting the time difference, but I really shouldn't have to hold your hand like that.

- Email me after 11pm the night before you are to wear the ribbons asking for my approval...doubly so when you are already expecting to do it on the last official makeup day, and have had weeks to prepare.

- Decide on your own makeup date, and proceed to do the assignment on that date without my approval.

- Delay your shopping because you want to do something to please me that isn't part of the assignment or otherwise ordered by me. I might like the surprise, but not if it makes you late. And, often, these are things that you are actually doing in order to please yourself, not me.

In this case, I really didn't care if you wore panties and hose to go shopping, and using your desire to do so as an excuse after the fact just shows how focused you were on yourself and your own fantasies. If you had actually asked, I would have told you 1) not to wait to change into them if it would make you late and 2) that I would find it far more sexy for you to wear them with the ribbons!

- Write repeatedly in you report about how the other women around you turned you on, including a picture, taken without permission, of one of the other women. As one of my other boys said, that doesn't even go over well in vanilla settings! Yes, I did say that when some woman caught your eye, my ribbon would remind you of who you belonged to, but well, that last part seems to have been completely forgotten in your report.

Predictably, this boy has a wandering eye, and has shown me in other ways that he isn't loyal enough to be considered for formal training with me.

- Ask me in our first real chat what panties I am wearing. I am not your porn, and if I want you to know, I'll tell you.

- Plan to come serve me in-person when you haven't even successfully completed an assignment in my service. Doubly so when you are already in a committed relationship, and know that I only seek unattached boys for my in-person service. Once again, this is an obvious sign that you were more focused on your fantasy than on my needs as a Real Woman.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

ed cantor's First Ribbon Reports & Training
St. Patrick's Day 2010

I know that many of you wonder what to put into a report, and what training with me is like... especially when I'm in "tease and denial" mode. Below are my boy, ed cantor's, first ribbon reports to me, along with some of the relevant emails back and forth between us that day.

One of the nicest things is that he let me know early that he was in fact wearing my ribbon so that I could really get into enjoying the thought of him secretly be-ribboned for me as I went about my day. That, and his naughtiness and writing skill, along with jezi and others wearing ribbons as well, made for one of my hottest St. Patrick's Days yet!

The Shopping Report

Mistress Magick,

I was able to find the ribbon -- basic satin ribbon -- at the sewing section of the Walmart, as you suggested. It is 3/8" wide, and I purchased two lengths of 1m each, just to be sure I had enough or [if I] made a mistake. They didn't have any patterned ribbon, so I got a bright and festive green. The closest match i could find was something called Kiwi Green.

The woman helping me, a delightful middle-aged woman who seemed to come from Italian village of 100 years ago, was very sweet and helpful, and even commented that it was just in time for St. Patrick’s Day. She asked me if I was going to trim out a hat or something. I just kind of blushed, and said yes, something like that....

thanks again, Mistress Magick



[This is a good shopping report, with plenty of detail, but not too long. I love the description of the woman waiting on him and the details of their conversation.]

My Feedback
Very good. And I'm glad that you enjoyed the shopping trip. I am betting that the Walmart wasn't as disorienting as a fabric shop/craft store would have been.

With two lengths, you should try using both to make it double thick, thereby also adding more loops to the bow.

I have to admit that I'm tempted to tell you about [name removed]'s shopping trip, but I probably shouldn't. I will say that he actually purchased two ribbons because he couldn't decide between them... and he made use of both of them. (I let him do his assignment early, so I already have his full report.) I do love it when you guys go "above & beyond" to make sure that you're covered rather chance falling short. :-) It's a very good sign.

I will expect to see something ticked off my wishlist as well. I could really use an Amazon gift certificate and it would still arrive on time... although I have to admit I keep thinking of the silk scarf from Jen Delyth.


[I've noticed that if the better boys can't decide, they buy both and offer me a selection. It's always better to be overprepared than not have what you need.

One thing NOT to do: email me a 5am my time from the fabric shop while you are trying to decide between narrow and wide ribbon. If I cared, I would specified the width in the assignment. I do expect you boys to use some common sense, and to be able to decide certain things on your own.]

His Response
thank you so much, yet again, Mistress Magick. It will be a joy and a constant pleasure and tease, I am sure, to do this for you. All the more so since I am still in my now self-enforced chastity[...] I know this ribbon will tease me and keep me tingling and hard for a very pleasurable day.



And Mine
And I'm looking forward to a juicy report that will make me warm in return... knowing how it teased you and that you still behaved yourself.

Comfirmatiom That He is Wearing the Ribbon

Already the experience is making for a wonderful day.. it is a lovely weather here today, but i know that is not the reason i am tingling... you and your ribbon are, Mistress Magick... I will send you a full report, after the day is done, but I also wanted to give you the early update as to my teased self.

thank you again, Mistress Magick. my irish eyes are smilin'

Knowing that He was Already Squirming, I Decided to Tease Him a Bit
As are mine.

Imagine me reaching down to inspect the ribbon: checking to make sure that the bow is tight, but that the loop isn't too much so...sliding a finger between the loop and your cock to test it...lifting the ends of the bow to pull it snug... enjoying your reaction as I brush the ribbon against you, taking my time and drawing it out, brushing against you again and again, teasing...

And His Response
I can imagine it all too well, Mistress Magick... being told to present myself to you, my hands perhaps behind my back after lowering my trousers for you... myself all bound in ribbon, presented to you for your inspection. Your subtle touch, testing and prodding, adjusting and tightening, making me tingle, making me stiffen in reaction... making the ribbon even tighter as a result. You smile and my tingle and trembling, before packing me back up, to feel this more, to serve more.

yours in ribbon,


And Mine
Continuing to tease before packing you away... Looking in your eyes...watching it on your face...hearing it in your breath... My own intense expression highlighted by an evil grin...

Warm... Wet...


I was enjoying his emails so much that I asked him to chat with me over lunch. When he heard my delight at the fact that jezi was wearing her ribbon without underwesr, he decided to follow suit.

i've removed my boxers, Mistress, so i now wear only the ribbon around my cock, or should i say yours?, and it there is nothing else between my and pants. it is, of course, only making more tingly, more aware of myself, more likely to have my erection grow and throb, more and more wanting to just be begging to be unwrapped like a st. patrick's day present you could open personally.



We discussed chatting more after work however he couldn't escape going out with friends to celebrate, which lead to a new line of teasing

Visions of you using the urinal in the bar... still be-ribboned.


Being the Imaginative Boy That He Is, He decided to run with it... although perhaps a bit too far

I can see the picture in my mind.

The perfect end to this St. Patrick's day would be to meet you at busy pub. You would know that I was wrapped in a bow and I would know. I would feel its grip, only tighter thanks to the inspiration of being near you.

We'd take a seat. You would have me keep my hands on the table or holding my pint, while yours tormented me, sliding over the obvious bulge. You'd have me throbbing and aching, my balls blue and needy in their green wrapping. Without boxers, I know there would even be a risk of my precum soaking a spot in my trousers.

The drink would be delicious, but it would also be another tease, as i would know you were just making me wait, making me wait for the real ordeal that would be just beginning when you took me out of there.

Of Course, I Made a Few Corrections
In some dark corner, perhaps even sneaking a peek of the top of the bow

...oh, but I think it would be dinner, far away from the cheap, green beer, and you would slowly feed me dessert.

Since he was out late, I didn't hear from him again until I received his report the next day.

Final St. Patrick’s Day Report
Written 2010-03-18

I awoke early, before my alarm – no doubt my body was as eager as I to start. I trimmed myself, making sure that I was presentable, then took a steamy shower, making sure I was crisp and clean.

Out of the shower and dry, I began to wrap myself up. With the extra length, I was able to wrap around myself a couple times, with plenty of ribbon for a large bow and for dangling ends. I placed the middle of the ribbon under my balls, drawing the ends up and around me, over my cock then back down again. Then I looped around again to encircle my shaft alone, then back around to get all of me again. I closed it all off with a largish bow, then trimmed the remaining ends as you had instructed.

I dressed and went out to work. Of course I could feel the ribbon and its slight grip at every movement. It was like a tickle sometimes and a hug others. The increased thought of myself within it, especially for someone else, made me tingle. I was probably at least half erect all day long.

Talking to you via twitter and email and chat (wonderful!!) was intense and only inspired my imagination more, making me throb. There were times, thinking of you, that I would sneak my hand down and grind against myself, reveling in the desire and lust and want. [This assignment allowed him to touch, but not to cum.] Of course, fantasizing about being presented to you for an unwrapping was even more wonderful.

After our chat, as I mentioned, I went and removed my boxers, tucking them away. I felt even more sensitized, feeling myself freer, but also sliding against the fabric of my pants, feeling even more exposed. Yes, I was even harder, for longer stretches at a time. I had to really concentrate to try and think about ANYTHING else.

And of course, when what I might have wanted was just to get home and get privacy, there was no avoiding pints. We had a great time, actually. We drank and laughed and drank and told stories. There was one or two women with us, and they were getting happy and silly too. They were laughing and flirting and enjoying themselves, and nothing is as sexy as a happy, smiling woman. It was making the ribbon tighter… LOL. [Yes, he mentioned other women, but in a positive non-specific way, that could be equally applicable to me. Besides. it's true! :-)]

Yes, there were at least two occasions that I had to relieve myself, and had to be quite careful, especially on a busy night, to try to avoid showing just how much I was celebrating the day! [Referencing my enjoyment at the thought of him doing this... having to either using the stalls or risk getting caught.]

It was a wonderful day, Mistress, feeling your ribbon hold me all day long. I felt like I was in your embrace and control, and it was such a pleasure and gift.

I made sure that the ribbon was not too tight, and I slept last night wearing it and nothing else. That way, I woke with the memories and a wide smile to go along with a raging reminder of my lusts and desires.

Thank you Mistress



Things That Make Me Smile

I had so much fun Monday night training "capn slight" on cam. After learning how to put on and take off various endless o-ring cock and ball rings (and other big firsts), he wore one of them for me all day on Tuesday. The last paragraph of his Tuesday cock ring report is below.


Thank you again so much for last night, for all your attention and patience and care, for making me use your cock as you please, making me squeeze and manipulate it into the rings and for taking me to places in my head I didn't know could exist. I hope I am learning well and am deserving of your attention and time.

I can assure you that I feel that he is.

Being very new to this, he does have a lot to learn, but I see a lot that I already like in him and a lot of potential for growth. Therefore, I am putting a certain focus on teaching him right now, both in regard to how to serve me better, and in regard to more general training and mentoring.

I get thank you's  from subs all the time, and I try not to spend my time on those who do not value my attention, however reading this felt especially nice. The way that he thanked me for specific things made me feel more appreciated for my work, and the written confirmation of how much my service and training is effecting him feels very rewarding.

I'm planning to journal on Do's and Don't's in your assignment reports. The above is a definitely a "Do" and an example of why I'm considering formally accepting him into my training.

Here Puppy, Puppy, Puppy!

I just sent out an updated version of my "Dog Days of Summer" Assignment. Since it's a special Puppy Play assignment, I decided to allow even more self expression regarding your selection of collar, and I also updated the tribute address. Email "ForMistressMagick" *at* Yahoo *dot* com if you are interested and did not receive it. 

Regarding Collars:
I do have a fetish for black leather, so I generally require black leather collars of all of my new puppy trainees. I also don't like spikes and studs as I don't find them the least bit submissive, and some of the sharper spikes are even potentially dangerous, so I further require that the collar be plain to show their true submissive nature. However, recently, in shopping for a collar for my puppy-doll, I saw several other designs that I would also find very acceptable for the assignment, as well as for my boys & girls. I especially like the ones with bone or paw print designs as they emphasize that the wearer is a puppy/doggie rather than a more general submissive.

My Favorite Black Leather Collars with Bone Designs:
(The first link is the one that my puppy-doll now wears.)

Rhinestone Bones for the Femme & Fabulous Puppy:
(This one is so glam that I just had to share it.)

Since then, I've been reviewing additional options for collars - even the idea of using a puppy tail butt plug - with individual trainees. I've decided that, for this special puppy assignment, I really want to allow participants more leeway to explore their true puppy-self whether it be regal, playful, dressy, plain, etc. Like my Easter/Ostara assignment, in which you showed me your bunny-self, whether it be a sexy Playboy bunny or a sweetie little cottontail, I think it will be interesting and insightful to see how my puppies and doggies express themselves given the space to do so. I'm really looking forward to reviewing your reports.

If you are interested in my full Puppy Play program or want to give me a call for more personalized training, check out my listing at:

Thinking of you ...on a leash at my feet.

Saturday, July 17, 2010

International FemDom Day is a Week Away

Do you have your rubber (band)? ;-)

I do have plenty of the purple ones (to show your service to me), if anyone is looking for them. I'm happy to send you one for the price of postage & Paypal fees.

Sunday, July 11, 2010

4th of July Assignment Redux

Last weekend, I had an absolutely fabulous time with four boys wearing red, white & blue ribbons for me. I really enjoyed inspecting and using one of my potentials on cam. And while a couple of my own submissives were busy with work and family obligations, two brand new boys really stepped up... rushing to the store on July 4th for ribbons so as not to miss the big event. I got yummy pics from both of them, including the closeup that the pic above was cropped from, and hot reports like the one that I posted in my Erotica Blog @ Excelling on assignments like that is one sure way to get my attention, and I'm looking forward to my future communications with both of them.

A week later, I've already spent my Amazon gift certificates. Some lovely July gifts and tributes are also on the way including a new short purple satin and lace peignoir set from my jezi-girl; a black leather dog collar and leash, decorated with brass bones from my puppy-doll, and Around Her Finger, a book about female-led relationships, from my new local potential.

I do still have a couple boys & gurls doing the assignment on other designated days, with the official makeup day being Bastille Day (July 14). In fact, a new sissy has her "clitte" all decorated for me today, and I am absolutely sure that it is driving her to distraction... especially after a couple days of chastity. Just wait until she reads her "release" instructions! *evil grin*

For those who don't know, I'm trying to mix things up a bit and to have a variety of different fetishes and kinks in the newest versions of my holiday assignments. I'm planning to collect them into one of my next books so I want each one to be unique and exciting. It seems that my "ribbon assignments" are always the most popular. They certainly bring the most attention, and are easy and exciting for most new potentials*, so it is very tempting to just do a different colored ribbon each month. However, so far, I have stuck with the original holdays for which I assigned them: St. Patrick's Day, Beltane/May Day and the 4th of July/Bastille Day, and I have changed the last two to make each one unique.

*Some of the gurls do have an issue with being reminded of their boy-parts, but if you like having your "clit" tied up, then it still works. I've even had boys in chastity wear them tied around the base of their cock and balls and then through the loop where their lock goes on their device.

The fun's not over yet, so do let me know ASAP if you want to join in. I don't expect to do another ribbon assignment for several months... although I could always change my mind, and just declare an #MMDay Ribbon Day. ;-)

Next is International FemDom Day on July 24. After that, my focus will be on my "Dog Days of Summer" Puppy Play assignment. It combines the first two of my Puppy Training Assignments and is a bit more complex than normal. It's available now, so email me if you are ready to begin.

New trainees should contact me at: ForMistressMagick *at* yahoo *dot* com and request the assignment(s). You do not have to be my sub or potential to join in. Do be over 21, and if you belong to another Mistress/Domme, you should ask her permission first, and disclose that in your email.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

July 24
(A Poem for International FemDom Day)

by rickie

Beneath Her; a place of honor
Obedience without reservation
Bestowing my Trust upon Her
Leads to a higher elevation

For She is the True Way
my life is Her Life revered
Such a small price to pay
to give Her me to be steered

who am i but Her -- is there anything else to dub it?
one thing i know for sure: it's a privilege i am Her sub kit!
Whatever Her demand or request, with no rhyme or reason
whatever fetishes are best, it is my duty, boiled or freezin'

To Serve Goddess, Domme, Mistress, and the like
To reflect upon Her the best and the brightest
Whether Madam, Lady, Transgendered or Dyke
Never to waver in Her name in the slightest

For Woman is Beautiful and Bold in whatever Form
It is Unto Them our support They so richly deserve
They set agendas i do as told, that's the Norm
And whatever Their Pleasure i am bound to serve

* * *
rickie has been trained as a server by the Northern California Tea Society and has had the honor of serving at several Teas. he can be contacted at: venerator53 *at* yahoo *dot* com.

More info on International FemDom Day:
T-shirts from the organizers with the image above:,437225209

Sunday, July 4, 2010

Happy 4th of July (Slavery is Freedom)

Adapted from my 4th of July assignment:
No, the irony of instructing subs and slaves to celebrate Independence Day is not lost on me. What is it that George Orwell said in 1984? “Freedom is Slavery”. There are those in The Scene who argue that the reverse is true: Slavery is Freedom. Some of those slaves prefer to give up thinking and responsibility, and find it freeing not to have to make any decisions for themselves.

I personally prefer a submissive who is intelligence and skilled, using his ideas and abilities to serve my needs and desires. Perhaps that is why I prefer submissives rather than slaves. That being said, I would like to think that I give my boys and gurls the freedom to be themselves and to explore their kinks while in the service of a Domme that they can trust.

If You Would Like To Apply to Me...