I admit that while I do find it frustrating, I've decided that the best way to deal with it is to simply be myself, educating those that I interact with as I can along the way.
I owe a lot to my friend, Auburn Goddess (Auburn Landry), in helping me better understand the fives styles of Female Dominance, and the submissives who match with each style. And I often use the information from her class in helping to explain it to others.
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For those who don't know, I'm a Queen, meaning that I'm an loving and affectionate Domme, and I get my power from my femininity. I go toward being a Goddess (less affectionate) in formal scenes, and toward the Nanny (caring for my sub rather than him taking care of me) in times of stress. The type of sub that I seek gets his greatest reward from pleasing and pleasuring a woman.
Of course, the "Dommes" who are just in it for the money, and the "sub" who are really just bottoms wanting to be done exactly the way that want to done are always going to be there, as far as I'm concerned, they deserve each other.
What bothers me is having to wade through all the do-me bottoms to find the true gem who is not only a real submissive, but the type of submissive who "fits" the type of Domme that I am.
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3 years ago
It took me a while to understand why a sub kept calling me goddess and wanting to worship me when what I was looking for was a far more raw and primeaval experience. Having read the desciptions of the five archtypes I can see where I am placed and can now look for a sub that will fit me.
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